Relationship Clarity Questionnaire

A private self-reflection tool — not a diagnosis, not a score to pass or fail. Nothing you answer here is saved.

These five questions come first because they matter more than the rest of this questionnaire. Please answer honestly.

Has your partner ever threatened to hurt you, themselves, or someone you love? Yes No

Does your partner control who you can see, where you can go, or how you spend your own money? Yes No

Have you ever felt physically unsafe with this person, or been physically hurt by them? Yes No

Has this person — or someone connected to them — followed, monitored, or contacted you after you asked them to stop? Yes No

Right now, do you feel you may be in immediate danger? Yes No

For each statement, choose how often it's true.

We can talk about difficult topics without one of us shutting down. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

I feel heard when I share something that matters to me. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

I trust what my partner tells me. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

I don't feel a need to check up on my partner. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

We agree on what we each want from this relationship. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

We've talked openly about what we expect from one another. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

After a disagreement, we're able to repair and move forward. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

We argue fairly — no name-calling, no dragging up unrelated grudges. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

I can express sadness, fear, or anger without being mocked or dismissed. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

I don't feel I have to hide parts of myself to keep the peace. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

When I say no, it is respected. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

I'm comfortable saying what I am and am not okay with. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

My partner speaks about me, and to me, with respect — even when frustrated. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always

We treat each other as equals in decisions that affect us both. Rarely Sometimes About half the time Often Almost always